Try to Please Every Woman and You’ll Please NO Women

They say that relationships require compromise to work. That’s true.

…but they didn’t tell you _what_ to compromise.

The kind of compromise that kills attraction happens long before a relationship ever begins. It happens when men compromise themselves to get laid.

How are guys compromising themselves? By telling themselves things like…

_”She has a negative attitude, but that’s the trade-off for a girl this hot.”_
_”She has a drug problem, but she’s probably cool when she’s sober.”_
_”She’s a drama queen — but she’s sooo HOT!”_
…and the list goes on.

It sounds like a great strategy: overlook her flaws so they don’t get in the way of you and her sleeping together. So you do, and suddenly the attraction is gone and you can’t figure out why.

_”I did everything she asked. I changed myself for her. Why isn’t she attracted? What woman could possibly resist this offer?”_

Why wouldn’t they want a guy who is an easy catch?

…Because **quality is what you work for.** People simply don’t place much value on what they don’t work for or get for free.

So how do you become a catch? It starts with defining yourself.

* **Pick The Right Woman.** Get out a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Title the left side Must Have, and title the right side Turn Ons.

Write down two Must Have qualities that any woman must have before you even consider dating her. (The more specific the better!)

Do you only want to date models and actresses? Do you only want to date women who have healthy relationships? Then overlook dating any woman who doesn’t meet that criteria.

Write down three Turn Ons that any woman has that you really find attractive, but it isn’t what makes or breaks the deal. For example, maybe you really like blonds, but a hot brunette still has a chance with you.

* **Deal-breakers.** Like when you wrote your preferences down, except on the left side write Deal-Breakers and on the right side write Pain in the Ass.

Things that are a Pain in the Ass might annoy you somewhat, but they’re only minor inconveniences. If a woman does anything you wrote under Deal-Breakers, you have to walk away.

I know, it seems crazy to start rejecting any woman who crosses a line, especially if she’s really attractive. You might even get laid if you let a few deal-breakers slide!

…but the reality is that settling for mediocrity only gets you more mediocrity. Most guys who settle for relationships below their standards never advance until they come to the point of deciding to no longer accept the deal breakers.

So all we’re doing here is taking a shortcut that is going to save you years of grief and put you on the path to finding the right girl. Skip all the hassle of dating drama queens and psychotics. Your ideal dating life only happens when you accept what’s good enough for you.

* **When in doubt, say no.** When you give this a try and start filtering out women, you might find that maybe you’re being too strict or too lenient.

I’m a believer that it’s better to err on the side of too strict, rather than too lenient. With some practise you’ll learn when you’re over-reacting or under-reacting, but in the meantime, just say no when you feel like you might be compromising yourself.